How do I pleasure him more?

Interesting, I am having the same problem with my boyfriend I have been with over a year too. He seems to go thru phases where he gets blue and can't and thinks it is my job to make him . A certain part of it is, the person has to allow themselves to release, relax. I mean when you are uptight you cant, right? I think he is just under stress at these times...ie worried he might get laid off at work....It is frustrating and makes me feel bad, but I know that I have been with other men who do not have ANY trouble with me even 3 times in an evening so it is NOT me and it is NOT YOU. Yes, someone did suggest maybe he is really a closet gay...and that crossed my mind as he does not enjoy certain things other men do...ie . The guy has to want to share it with you. I think it is a sort of mental holding back that is going on...distrust, feeling that you dont really love him....I found that when he felt loved and needed most is when he was able to , but sometimes nothing works and he just enjoys pleasuring me. I will be interested in seeing your other responses.